Sooner or Later

Unless you know something that I don't, sooner or later, we're all gonna die.

One hundred years from now there will be all new people. Nobody is going to be thinking about the people who were living in 2009. They're going to be too busy with their own lives to care.

I live my life the way I want - finally - because I know that life is short, and that I'm going to die. If you're nice to me - I'm nice to you. If you fuck me - I fuck you. I have enough family and enough real friends to know that if you don't like me, it really doesn't matter. There are billions of people in the world. You're just a speck, and I'm just a speck. True freedom comes when you live your life on your own terms.

You cannot save me.

You can't even save yourself.

I cannot save you.

I can't even save myself.

So just save yourself.

Stabbing Westward

I often wonder when I'm going to die. Will it be soon? Will it be later? Will I die of old age, or will I die in a car crash? Will I live to see 100 or will I die of cancer? Will I live to see my future grandchildren or will I die in a fiery blaze as my plane crashes to the ground?

Is that morbid? Yeah, well sometimes I'm morbid.

I know you've read about Continental connection Colgan Air 3407. Rebecca Shaw, 24 years old, made only $16,000 a year flying for them, so she had a part-time job on top of it.

Beverly Eckert was on the flight. She was an advocate, involved in the creation of the 911 committee after her husband was killed in the attacks on the World Trade Center. Terrible way for both to go.

Why are huge pieces of metal able to fly? I don't know. I never studied physics or aerodynamics. All I know is that every time I get on a plane I wonder "should huge pieces of metal be up in the air at all?" Just sayin.' The whole process is weird to me.

As I was reading about this young copilot, along the way I came across this website - PlaneCrashInfo.com., There's a lot of information, and for the morbidly curious, there's the "last words" audio cvr tapes.

From Air Florida 90 - January 13, 1982

16:00:45 CAM-1 Forward, forward, easy. We only want five hundred.
16:00:48 CAM-1 Come on forward....forward, just barely climb.
16:00:59 CAM-1 Stalling, we're falling!
16:01:00 CAM-2 Larry, we're going down, Larry....
16:01:01 CAM-1 I know it!
16:01:01 The crash.

Of course I listened to them all, and basically what I've learned is that if there's "Pull up! Pull Up!" coming from the cockpit, you're fucked.


Jolie

Valerie Bertinelli

In the 70's, when I was a teenager, I loved watching Valerie Bertinelli play another teenager - Barbara Cooper - on "One Day at a Time." I thought she was a good actress, and I thought she was pretty.

In 1981, at 20, Valerie married Eddie Van Halen. Later they had a son, and they stayed married until they separated in 2001 and divorced in 2007. (Now Valerie is with Tom Vitale.) Along the way Valerie put on pounds. That's what happens along the way - you put on pounds. But today, at 48 years of age, she looks fantastic. I have not read Valerie's book, but it's on my list. I'm interested in her journey.

(Cougar women like younger men - Valerie isn't dating a man under 30, but you may want to think about Valerie as inspiration for a cougar story for my new anthology - The Cougar Book.)

I've always liked Valerie Bertinelli because she's real. She's never been a manufactured Barbie doll - she's real.

But real does not mean unhealthy.

Many women say that women should accept their bodies, no matter what the weight, and that being subjected to images of women in bikinis just contributes to a lack of self esteem and eating disorders.

Yes. You should accept your body for what it is - if you're taking care of it. If you're smoking, eating junk food and/or not exercising - talk to me about self acceptance when you're healthy.

At 46, I want to eat right, exercise, and I don't want to smoke or take drugs. I want to force myself to get enough sleep, even though I'm crazy busy, and I'll have my wine in moderation.

When I do that I can naturally fit into a bikini. That doesn't mean I'm starving myself.

Let's make that clear.


I am not a Jenny Craig customer or candidate. However, I looked at Bertinelli's blog and I like it because it's motivational. Go here for her blog.